Maid of Honor Speech Guide

If you are a Maid of Honor, one of the main duties that may make you nervous is the Maid of Honor speech. In this post, we provide you a guide on how to compose a Maid of Honor speech that will satisfy the crowd prior to the toast.


A Maid of Honor Speech is typically made during the wedding reception prior to dinner. It should last between 2 and 5 minutes. However, the sweet spot is around three minutes or 390 words.

At a typical speaking pace of 130 words per minute, a 5 minute speech will be about 650 words.

Key Tips

  • Make bulleted structural notes, but leave the expanded word for word scripts at home. Your audience will appreciate a Maid of Honor speech with a natural tone and room for ad-libbing.
  • Practice, practice, practice!

Maid of Honor Speech Structure:

  1. Introduction: including your name, your relationship to the Bride, and how long you have known each other.
  2. Tell a brief favorite anecdote or two: tell the story of the time you and your bestie stood in line for concert tickets all night, drove cross country, or made a mess making cookies. Any sentimental memories are a great way to start the toast.
  3. List three of your favorite attributes about the Bride: for example, selflessness, optimism, and talented.
  4. Talk about the time when you first heard about the Bride’s spouse: where were you and what were the traits that the Bride shared that she loved about her future spouse.
  5. Recognize that there couldn’t be a more perfect pair.
  6. Invite the guests to toast to the happy couple: “to countless years of commitment and joy!”

Your bestie will be impressed with the Maid of Honor speech you prepared and will be very happy that she selected you to stand by her on her big day.

If you need some tips on how to write better speeches, here is a link to a Toastmasters Book that many people have found useful to gain insight on hand gesturing, the importance of practice, and more.